Why God created woman. (opinions and thoughts by sMitty)
It has been a long time since I have posted a Blog. I am working on several. One about prophecy and how close we are to the end, another on our daily walk with God (Desiring God) and finally this one. Some of you may know some of my story and that I had been apart from my spouse for some time. It had been a tough ordeal that left me broken early on and healed by the grace of God later. The separation led to my complete surrender to the Lord, and for that I am grateful and would not change what I have gone through. It has been worth it all the way, and I am a new Man by grace, through Faith in Jesus. If you are interested you can read more about my surrender and journey by reading the previous blogs here.
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I have a sweet chronological Bible and it is very cool to read things in the order that they happened. Of course Genesis is in the beginning and I found some parts of it that were truly relevant to my situation. I am blown away by the Lords ability to use the Word and make it relevant to our lives, as we read, pray and seek Him. In Genesis God talks about the creation of Woman, Eve to be exact. Let me preface this whole blog with a few statements. First of all, Men and Woman are equals in my estimation. I also believe that though we are equals we are uniquely created with certain abilities to perform certain roles in life, and for the Kingdom. I will be talking mainly about the creation of woman in this blog. I have talked about men and our roles in previous Blogs. If you think that I am being one sided here please go read my blog on Love. It would give you insight into a mans role which is basically these things
1. Love his wife as Christ did the Church.. In other words to die unto himself and put her first. Die to his selfish ways. Christ died a painful horrible death for the church.
2. To be the leader in his home, primarily the spiritual leader. Forging the path straight to Jesus for his family, leading by example in a loving kind manner.
So on to my thoughts and this topic.. We will start with a verse
Genesis 2 18 The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Here God lays out his first reason for creating woman. Women were created with that very scripture in mind. It is not good for a man to be alone. Women were created to be a mans companion. Men and woman were meant to be together as companions, lovers, and friends. They compliment each other. Man was not meant to be alone, but to find a woman to be with and enjoy. So in this sense it is true that it is better for a man to be married than not in my opinion
He goes on..
Genesis 19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.
But for Adam [h] no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs [i] and closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib [j] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
The second part of that scripture sticks out to me the most based on the light of my situation. It shows that women were created to be a helper for man. God mentions that he would make a help mate for Adam. A suitable helper at that. Suitable might be another way of saying compatible helper. So if you are a woman you are inherently compatible with a Man. By definition, ordained by God, woman is to be man's helper. Yeah I just said that. It is her primary role. God did not say that he made Woman to be mother first, daughter first, cousin first, sister first, friend first, but to be a helper of her Man. It is a blessing to me that God made this so crystal clear to me. Its beautiful in its simplicity. He leaves no question here what the primary role of a woman is.
How is that a woman helps her man? First and foremost is as a cheerleader. You have heard it said "behind every good man is a great woman". I believe that to be true. The Love of a woman is a huge motivation for a man. As a man I have felt as though I could climb the highest mountains, and conquer nations when I feel the Love of my woman. It is one of the strongest motivations. A woman could be the one cheering her man on as it relates to work, to life, and all of his endeavors. She might be, or could be his greatest asset, and the biggest believer in his abilities. A man ought make him self worthy of these things.
Secondly I believe if a woman is a stay at home woman without a career or a job then her primary job should be her home. They used to teach these things in school back in the 50's but now a days roles have changed and a woman is now a breadwinner in many homes. One of my best friends is the stay at home Dad while his wife works. He assumes the role. He makes dinner, cares for the children and cleans the house. I told my wife a long time ago that she could goto work or stay at home, whatever she chose was fine with me. When the kids were to young for school I encouraged her to stay home. I also required that she be a homemaker. I again must emphasize that if a lady is to stay home rather than work she ought fulfill the role and make her home her job.
The second part of that scripture refers to the actual creation of Eve. God caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep. This is a reference to the fact that Adam did not have any say in what God was about to do. Adam did not have any input about how his mate should be made.. no input on the matter at all. It was also a way for God to save Adam from the pain in having a Rib removed. Adam was created from the dust of the earth. So that means that women are dust twice refined, and in some way a higher being, closer to God. The Rib came from Adam's side and that represents the fact that woman and man are equal side by side. God did not choose to use a bone of the foot that she might be stomped on, or bone from the top of Adam, that she might rule over Man. He choose the side to show that the two are side by side equals. If Adam was the King, Eve would be the jeweled crown.
He goes on...
Genesis 23 The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman, [k] '
for she was taken out of man."
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
25 The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
Adam was clearly blessed by the creation of Woman. He even used Man in her name as they were equals but different in sex. She was formed from "bone of my bone flesh of my flesh" The two shall be one. It says that the two were naked and they were not ashamed. They were comfortable with each other. "for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and they will become one flesh". Clearly the man and the woman are to leave behind the former life and cling one to another, and become one, a new family. A man would have such desire for his woman that he would leave all that he has known behind and start a new with his helper, with his wife. Just as man and woman are equals so is the requirement to leave the former family and cleave one to another. It is clear that we are to cut the umbilical chord and become a new separate being. Through the marriage bond and the unity of Sex the two become one flesh. Literally speaking.
The union of sex is meant for a marriage relationship because of the bond that it creates. To break that bond, or go through a divorce is like tearing one being apart into two. It is one of the many reasons that break ups after sexual union are so difficult. So difficult that it can take a lifetime to heal. Since the two become one it is imperative to leave Sex for that true Love relationship called marriage. God was not punishing us by commanding that we would save sex for marriage, he was simply protecting us from the pain it causes to break that union. As it is with the commandments that God has given us, they are out of Love. He loves us enough to warn us, to guide us with his word. He gave us the ultimate owners manual in the Bible. It is the best way to answer all of our questions in life. The Bible is God breathed, God inspired.
Back to the topic at hand here. God made women to be a companion to man. He made her first to be a help-mate for man. Again let me say, she is help mate first, not sister, daughter, friend, cousin, aunt, grandmother, or anything else first. In an ideal world I believe it to be best for a woman to be a homemaker. To be home taking care of the home in such a way to make it a refuge for her man. I believe that when a woman becomes a mother that at some level the kids come first especially early on in the children's lives. This does not mean that she ought forsake her first role in being a help-mate to her man. In an ideal world even after the kids are in school a woman might still be a home maker. Cooking, cleaning, and again like I said before making her home a refuge for her man.
So with all that said I am sure that I have offended some. I do not intend to. These things are my opinion and no where does it command in the Bible that a woman should be at home barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. For me I have certain needs. I need a clean neat home. I need my wife to be available when I am off work, and if she were working our schedules might be as such that we would have little time together. I need a refuge from this world and I need that refuge to be my home. Since we have children it really is a full time job to keep our home a refuge and to take care of the children. I appreciate that my wife is willing and is able to do these things. She is more than I could ever ask for. I have never required that she be a home maker or stay home. It has always been an option.
If your a man, maybe ask yourself...
What s it that I truly value? Would it be better for our family if my wife was home? What is it that my wife wants? Does she want to work? Am I willing to do whatever it takes to give her the option to stay home and fulfill her primary roles as help-mate and mother?
If you are a woman ask yourself..
Am doing the right thing by allowing a babysitter to raise my children? Is it really necessary for me to work? What is it that my husband wants? Am I making my home a refuge?
If you are a stay at home mom or home-maker ask yourself... Am I really doing as I ought to and full-filling the role of help-mate and mother? Am I doing as God has called me to do or am I wasting away the free-time that I have been blessed with on the things of this world?
Here is a way to find out if your wasting your time by answering these questions. This applies to both men and woman.
How much time do I spend watching TV
How much time do I spend on the internet myspacing, playing online games, and instant messaging?
How much time do I spend playing video games?
How much time do I spend on the phone, texting or talking?
How much time do I spend away from the home during my spare time?
Is my spouse comfortable with how I use my discretionary time?
How much time do I spend with my friends and does it take away from my immediate family?
The truthful answers to these questions will help determine where our priorities are at. It is what we do with our discretionary time that can be the best bartometer to guage whom and what we serve. If any of this offends you maybe it would be wise to get to the heart of the matter and find out what your root feelings are. Are you feeling convited by the spirit? Are you angry because of the guilt you may have for not fullfilling your Godly ordained role? What is it that you might be afraid of?
Wasting time-- This is off topic somewhat but relevant to a marriage relationship. I have some serious opinions as it relates to the television.
1. most of the programs on television promote tolerance of sexual immorality and gay lifestyles.
2. most programs portray woman as sex objects and not human beings
3. there is tons of violence on TV and by the age 18 a person has on average seen 200000 acts of violence
4. 44% of kids say they watch something different when their parents are not home
5. Witnessing repeated violent acts can lead to desensitization and a lack of empathy for human suffering
You can understand why I do not watch TV anymore :)
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